Phrase guide

it's not you, it's me

phrase · 1 senses · updated from the 2026-07-25 local source snapshot

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Pronunciation

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phrase

Meaning 1

Don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship.

Definition source: English Wiktionary via Wiktextract

Usage: ironic, often, sarcastic

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Meaning relationships

Synonyms: none provided

Antonyms: none provided

History

Etymology

Originally used in American sports as a humblebrag consolation to less successful players. Popularized in romantic contexts by the 1988 American comedy Casual Sex?

Across languages

Translations

5 source translations are retained for this English entry.

  • Azerbaijani: günah səndə deyil, məndədir — don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship
  • Catalan: no ets tu, sóc jo — don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship
  • Persian: به خاطر تو نیست، تقصیر خودمه (be xâter-e to nist, taqsir-e xodam-e) — don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship
  • Portuguese: não é você, sou eu — don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship
  • Spanish: no eres tú, soy yo — don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship